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A prayer of praise & love

"The fact that you are even on this healing path deserves a giant spiritual high five. Diving into the abyss of this spiral is a brave commitment to yourself. To seek to understand and not ignore. To sit with your stuff and hold your hand to the fire in service of more joy, more fun, more love and more peace on the other side. Not everybody makes the choice to say: 

I will not turn a blind eye to my life.
I will walk toward my pain instead of backing away.
I will not fall under the cultural spell and programming of society that wants me to numb out and stay productive at all costs so I don't feel "lazy" and bad about myself.
I will be gently curious about my motivations and the roots of my feelings.
I will run everything I hear (even from people I love, respect & admire!) through my own filter to see if it rings true for ME.
I will shower myself with compassion and tenderness as I move through this work so that I feel safe and protected with this new vulnerability.
I will put down the metaphorical whip and stop punishing myself for being a human being with feelings and emotional history.
I will not put arbitrary timelines on my healing or beat myself up for "not being better by now." You're doing a great job. I just thought you should know."
- Erin Telford 

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